“Who should do more of the calling? Is it the GUY or the GIRL; the HUSBAND or the WIFE?”

I have this friend whose husband usually travels on business trips. As a matter of fact, I’ve not seen the man in 3 years. One day, I asked my friend, “What about your husband, do you hear from him? Does he call? This was her response (scratching her neck), “Eeeeen… he calls sha…” with such eminent uncertainty not only in her response but also in her countenance. So I pressed further, “Hmmm, from your response, this man is not calling the way he should o! Are you calling him? I mean…” But before I could complete my question, she suddenly cut in, “Who should be doing the calling?! Is he not the one that should be calling me and the children? He doesn’t remember that he left a wife and children at home? (et cetera, et cetera…) Anyway, I call him sha…”
To cut the long story short, I believe you see the point I’m driving at.
Now, the question is, “Who should do more of the calling? Is it the GUY or the GIRL; the HUSBAND or the WIFE?”
Ladies and Gentlemen?